5 Steps to Taking off your Hijab
It seems like there are some people who are just thinking about taking off their hijab. No one has created a step-by-step approach for it. Here you go.
1) Stop thinking it’s a big deal. It’s bad, but not that bad. There are people who drink, you know! Let this idea simmer.
2) Stop thinking about what others would say or think. You aren’t suppose to do good deeds for other people’s sake, it’s suppose to be for Allah.
3) *Critical step* Find and stick to friends who have already took off their hijab. They will give you their stories, why they did it and how it makes sense. Look how cool and trendy they are! They’ll be the ones who will provide you support after you take it off.
4) If you stopped wearing it, you are going to feel a little nervous. You need to be armed with some replies. Here are some commonly quoted reasons;
- “My husband/in-laws wanted me to, it’s part of being a good wife to listen to what they say”
- “You don’t understand, it’s tough to wear it at my workplace”
- “There is a difference of opinion”
- “There are girls who wear hijab and do bad things”
- If anyone tries to get to preachy, tell them they don’t know what’s in your heart and they can’t judge you. It makes you feel real good.
5) Even after you take off your hijab, your heart will tell you to go back and you will doubt what you just did. Try to kill these feelings and thoughts. It will be too embarassing to start wearing the hijab again. Its like publically saying you made a mistake. What will people say ?
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Is this supposed to be humor? It really is a bad post if it is. There are people who are really struggling to keep it on and making this post doesn’t help them…
Assalamu’alaykum
I don’t think this post was meant to be humorous, it uses reverse psychology to make a person think about their thought process when it involves wearing hijab, and make themself ask these questions:
-Am I more concerned about what people think than what Allah thinks?
-Am I looking at people below me for my deen?
-Am I not humble enough to admit mistakes?
Arguably, it’s not the best post to motivate one to wear Hijab (it’s a struggle for sure), especially since I assume it was written by a guy, but it still has some good points.
Jazak Allah Khayr
After seeing numerous close sisters who took off their hijabs and who had worn the hijab for many years, who had had the support to wear it, who understood why one needs to wear it, it was nothing but Shaytans whispers to tell ones nafs that that ‘Hijab; is not for you anymore. Let us remember who Shaytan is and what Allah mentions about him in the Quran:
And Satan will say when the matter has been concluded, “Indeed, Allah had promised you the promise of truth. And I promised you, but I betrayed you. But I had no authority over you except that I invited you, and you responded to me. So do not blame me; but blame yourselves. (ibrahaim:22)
And never let Satan avert you. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy. (Zukhruf: 62)
There are exceptional cases for sisters where they are forced to take their hijab off, etc. Allah is the best judge and knows what lies in each one of our hearts. There is nothing negative or problematic about publicly admonishing a Sin. Keep up the good work Ahmed
Allah knows best!
Praise Allah brother,
I’ve been deeply distraught recently concerning my wife’s trepidations on hijab. Allah forgive her, she is merely a confused woman.
I have tried many things; we have consulted Hadith by ourselves and alongside a respected Imam here in Bakersfield, but it was to no avail! She thought there was no hadith truly on point, despite my clear allusions to Sahih Bukhari Volume 2, Book 18 concerning hijab. I sat her down in front of my parents and yet she audaciously argued still, in front of her own in-laws! Needless to say my mother has still not recovered from the conversation.
I must admit brother, Allah forgive me, I almost lost hope. Despite the veracity of such legitimate and concrete sources, she just believed they were not applicable to modern life.
And then, mashallah I discovered your blog and this particular post. I quickly directed her to it though she read it reluctantly.
But soon thereafter she truly felt that someone finally spoke her language.
My brother, excuse my informality, but she “just got it”. Now I am more comfortable with being around her and we do not have this wall between us. She has accepted hijab and can’t believe she ever thought of taking it off. Don’t worry brother, I remind her everyday of Shaitaan’s trickery and her close slip up.
Mashallah, may Allah bless you and your wife. Take care brother.
@ Antigone, as salaam alikuim
Your story almost brought tears to my eyes.
Firstly, all thanks belong to Allah as he is the Owner of our hearts. No one, not even Shaytan, can misguide someone, if He choose to guide them.
I felt like I won a million dollars today because I helped defeat Shaythan in his biggest goal, to try to cause separation between husband and wife.
Share it with others who might be going through this struggle.
Jezkallah khair for your dua. You two were in mine as well.
Ahmed